There are dos and don'ts
in a relationship. If you are finding the latter list of conventions more
common in your behavior, then you are most likely to meet a dead-end with your
happily-ever-after dream soon.
Don't ruin your perfectly fine relationship with these repugnant ways.
Don't ruin your perfectly fine relationship with these repugnant ways.
Stop nitpicking
This is the first
relationship red flag. If you pick holes about everything from what he wears to
how he speaks, bear in mind nobody wants to be around a nag. You will give him
the impression that he winds you up more than soothes your nerves. You may
argue that he is nice, but doesn't meet the criterion of the perfect guy you
always dream of being with. That surely doesn't give you the license to be the
change maker in his life. Preventing him from hanging out with his crazy
friends, or stopping his video game sessions in an attempt to stabilize him
will one day get the better of your relationship. We suggest, give him some space
and enjoy yours.
Get a life
Get a life
So, your job is important
to you. Good for you. However, don't let your business become the centre of all
the conversation that you have with your man, unless you're facing a crisis at
work and you want him to hear you out. Calling off dinner dates, being on a work
call and attending to your mails while you are with your partner is extremely
disrespectful. It shows that you probably are having a relationship with your
job than with your guy. Relax, once you are through with the day's work, switch
off. Enjoy your time with your man and maintain the sanity of your relationship.
Hold your horses
Hold your horses
It has been a while since
the two of you are dating, and you have been waiting for him to propose
marriage since the day you met him. Then, you would probably be waiting for the
rest of your life. Hold your horses. Learn to go with the flow. Don't go about
introducing him to your parents after the second date, and invite him for
family dinners after the third. That said, don't be ambiguous too. If you are
serious then let him know, or else let him go. Men can gauge the difference
easily when the woman is playing hard to get, or when she is playing mean
games.
Don't be silly
Don't be silly
It is okay to speak to
yourself, or tell yourself that you are pretty in front of the mirror every
day. But don't expose your eccentricities in front of the potential 'to-be'
when you are only just six months into the relationship. You may scare him off
for good. Give him the awkward gaze, but save those crazy eyes when you know
him a lot better.
Learn to trust
Learn to trust
The basis of any healthy
relationship, besides love, is trust. Don't be insecure. If you are constantly
wondering whom he is with or speaking to, then you, perhaps, need a reality
check. Walking on thin ice is unhealthy, and not when there are feelings involved.
At that rate, you will reach the shrink before you make it to the marriage
registrar's office.
Stop venting
Stop venting
Your boss hates you, your
friends envy you, your mum doesn't listen to you, you are fat, and your world
is as crappy as it gets. Too bad, learn to deal with it. But don't make your
partner your vent hole. No guy wants to sit with a girl and hear how round her
tummy is. People want to be around happy and optimistic kinds, not someone who
whinges the entire day. Before you know it, your guy will be complaining about
you to his folks. And even before you realize, he probably has become the
reason you are whining to others about. Stop playing the Moaning Myrtle.
Occasionally, give him a patient ear too.
Move on
Move on
If you are in love with
someone else, then you certainly cannot give your new relationship all that it
takes. Should you find yourself in a situation like this, step back and reason
out. Make it clear to your partner that you are not just that into him. Better
to let him go, than cling on to someone only to make yourself feel secure and
wanted. It is not fair to your partner. Be true to yourself and your feelings.
Move on, and allow him too.
Source: Unknown.
Note that this applies to
guys as well as it does to ladies.